We’re born equipped to notice. But sometimes we blindfold ourselves….for fear of being alone or angering someone, or out of hopelessness that conflicts could be resolved. So consider this: Just because you notice a partner’s flaws…… doesn’t mean you have to break up with him. It means you see him as a whole person. It means you’re growing up. It means you have the potential to cultivate a nourishing relationship.
Day: February 11, 2020
When the love of your life walks away, hooks up with someone else, or flat out tells you he’s not interested, it feels like a kind of death. You may even wish you were dead. This is normal. That’s key: know you are normal, even though you want to crawl into a hole and sleep for a few years. These statements reflect how it is to be devastated yet aware that we are normal (i.e., like everybody else).
Closure is important because it allows us to make sense of events that happened and allows us to attach names and emotions to what occurred. This especially important when it comes to the end of a relationship. We need to know how to move on and what the causes were that ended the relationship or what we still need to work on. But when someone disappears or suddenly just ends it, we don’t get that opportunity. So how do you move on?