The fear of abandonment is very real and can negatively impact a relationship and even sabotage it, if you aren’t careful. It stems from prior relationships, childhood and adult, in which the person wasn’t there for you. The emotional impact is still felt and the fear that someone will leave you in the present triggers all the old feelings of being abandoned unconsciously, subconsciously, and consciously.
Day: April 27, 2020
When a guy pulls away without a word, he’s obviously too embarrassed to talk with you about what he’s thinking and feeling. Give him the space he needs. Let him miss you. Let him figure out what he really wants. Let him have the time to make a decision. Trying to pull back him in, get explanations, or asking what you did wrong won’t make anything better. Besides, it makes you look needy and desperate.
It can be extremely painful for a woman to want more intimate communication with a man, especially if she thought they were on the same page initially with regards to the relationship. As a therapist, I stay very curious when working with a woman who wants more emotional intimacy from a relationship than the man does.
Being vulnerable means being open and connected to your heart and feelings and authentically expressing your genuine self to your partner. The result of showing your vulnerable side deepens connection and intimacy in your relationship. We are often scared to be vulnerable because we can feel exposed and shamed.
If you feel that your partner is not moving the relationship forward, first ask yourself, where do you want the relationship to go? Do you know him well enough to know whether you even want a serious relationship with him?
Do you know what you truly want in your life? These are the first things to ask yourself before you struggle with moving the relationship forward.
When he puts his child before you, you need to remember that the child was there first. The biological imperative and deep ties between a parent and child supersede any subsequent relationships. While there needs to be a balance, and you also need to feel that you are a priority, you should not try to compete with a child. These are two completely separate relationships and there is enough love to go around for both