Many people go through different stages in their relationship. I would like to share a few tips about do’s and don’ts when your boyfriend says he loves you but does not make time for you. There could be many different reasons your boyfriend or husband is being distant. It could be anything from he feels too comfortable in your relationship to past relationship trauma.
If you still love your ex, it’s too soon for you to have a boyfriend. You really have to be out of a relationship, not just physically, but emotionally to be ready for a new relationship. It’s not fair to anybody to be emotionally torn between two relationships. Often when women find themselves still loving the ex, they have gotten into the new relationship as a buffer to the fear of being alone. Sometimes women already have someone in the wings before they are brave enough to leave a bad relationship. Other times their partner may have left them. In the devastation of being left, a woman may grab onto a new relationship to assuage the hurt, anger and loneliness of being left.
Part of why you fall so quickly has to do with issues of low self-worth and low self-esteem. Are you feeling desperate? Are you feeling left behind? Are you assuming if you don’t jump in now, you will never have someone in your life? It’s good to be open and honest with yourself. Perhaps you are feeling pressure from family and friends to get married. If you are feeling badly about your current single status, having it pointed out by friends and family can really rub salt in the wound. Because of this, you are jumping in quickly, even though you don’t know him that well.
One of the most difficult challenges in a relationship is needing your partner to express their love for you and not having that need met. It can be a really lonely and frustrating place, especially if you don’t feel heard when you express your desires. Although every relationship is unique, often times this occurs for a few reasons:
Ouch! I have been there. You’re seeing a guy and it feels good. And then out of the blue, crickets…. What the heck happened? Did I do something wrong?Not again. This can be a confusing time. That voice in your brain goes into anxiety overdrive. Here are some practical tips to get through it.