One of the recommendations when deciding whether to stay or go is to make a list of positives and negatives about the relationship, and see which one is longer. This will give you some clear data about the state of your relationship. Sometimes, seeing it on paper can help break your denial about the reality of the situation. It’s very easy to ignore a long list of negatives and focus on one good thing that we think we cannot live without from the other person. Seeing the actual balance of different aspects of the relationship can help to give you clarity that you might not have by just thinking and ruminating.