A roaring fire will sustainably burn as long as there is a healthy balance of fuel composed of tightly bonded atoms and oxygen surrounding the atmosphere. If you build a fire too air-tight, lacking space for oxygen to flow, the fire will either not ignite or fail. Healthy romantic relationships require this same balance of bondedness and space to keep the partnership hot and alive.
Day: May 22, 2020
Pulling away can be a nonverbal way of saying, “I am not interested in pursuing this relationship.” It’s an avoidant and immature response. This person may never have learned to communicate respectfully and directly and so letting go of the would-be relationship with this early knowledge might be your best bet.