Day: November 24, 2020

Both men and women often approach a new relationship on their best behavior

During the courtship, a man will work to earn your trust and love hoping that you will see him as worthy of a being in a relationship with you. He puts his best out there to show you that he is a “good catch.” He will shower you with attention and dote on you during his courtship of you.

Then the relationship moves to the next phase and the honeymoon is over so to speak. He stops doing the things he did when you were dating and slowly changes the way he engages with you. You are worried he is losing interest and want to know how he feels about you. You wonder if his behavior reflects a loss of interest or that he is getting comfortable with you.

As a therapist, one of the more recurrent relationship obstacles I notice is a difference in wants. In dating and relationships, a woman may spend time with a man who is not ready for a committed, monogamous relationship, but communicates his enjoyment of her company. However, a woman may be ready for a committed relationship and signal a readiness for more commitment.

The obstacle comes when two people who enjoy each other’s company are not on the same page or even in the same book. She wants a commitment. He likes her but does not want a commitment.

In the case in which two people have separate visions for a time together, the following are power tips for relational success:

Be a safe place for him

Be kind and be a safe place for him. Take care of him like you want to be taken care of emotionally and physically. Do things with sincerity and not because you want something in return.

Be thoughtful and make him his favorite meal. Surprise him with something that he likes. Listen to what he says and let him know with what you do for him that you are listening to him.

As you know, casual sex without emotional ties is not easy for everyone.

Yet, some people enjoy the physical connection and simple camaraderie, more than the intensity of a romantic, emotionally intimate relationship. FWB is a relationship with no strings attached.

But what happens when your attitude changes and you want more.